Journey To Mrs.

Good morning my people. I hope you are all well and ready to conquer. I am currently on a short holiday in Kenya, and with vacation comes peace of mind. So with that I've decided to make my new blog series announcement officially on the blog. I took to instagram this week to share the news that I will be creating a brand new column on the blog that will be centered around the joys and even struggles of becoming a wife. Incase you have not been able to tell yet I am super exited for this new chapter in my life!

What To Expect  In This New Series

Expect to hear first hand experiences from the eye of newly married girl.
I will fill it with tips and tricks that I have probably learned or practiced.
Personal stories and lots of photos of hubby and I (yes stay tuned for our Kenya vacation pics)
Day to day activities with family.
Family stories and tips.
And lots and lots of relationship talk as we used to do on here!

Hope you are all just as excited as I am, and I can not wait to bring you all along with me!

Female Breadwinner: Nigerian Men So Threatened By A successful Wife?

I want to start this off with two stories.

Story One

I have a cousin who graduated from medical school, moved out of her parent's house and bought her own house when she started practicing. All of my aunties were upset about it. They kept repeating things like "why would you move out of your parents house?", "what man will marry you after this", "don't you know you are scaring away potential husbands, men don't like the idea of a very independent woman!", and so on. Needless to say, they were right about that. She's in her great 30s now, and unmarried. I recently ran into her, and she couldn't stop speaking on the fact that no man has proposed to marry her yet. She said how all the men she runs into are either gold diggers looking for a come up, or not wanting to settle down with her because she is "too successful".

Story two. 

My aunty and uncle have been married for 20 plus years. My aunty is the breadwinner of the house.

Cheating Story: Who Should Go Down For Cheating?

This one is for my women. Men, as usual if you have any input feel free to drop it.

Cheating is something most of us have had experience with. Either we were cheated on, a friend was cheated on, a family member, or we did the cheating ourselves (yeah I see you looking down in guilt hunny). But there has always been one question lingering on in the air when it comes to cheating. In the case of cheating who should go down for it?? Ladies, should your husband's mistress go? Or should your husband go down?

When a woman is cheated on, most times the first thing we think of is how to deal with the mistress. But is dealing with the mistress really the smart thing to do? 

Today I saw an article of how a Zimbabwean woman finally caught her man's cheating mistress, and boy did she go HAM! Long story short, she brutalized her, then stripped her naked and paraded her in the streets. And yes guys I'VE GOT PHOTOS!!!

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Good morning everyone! Oya come make we talk! Ladies, do you feel pressured to settle down because you have loads of suitors around you? Are you afraid that this is your "prime" and if you don't make a decision to pick one you might end up old and alone?

Well come sit down and hear the advice I gave to a reader in dilemma.

How To Cope With Your Clueless Man.

Hello ladies and gents! Hope you're all doing well. It's been such a beautiful week and I'm fully fired up for the upcoming weekend and it's adventures (if there is any)

It's no secret that a lot of men can be a bit clueless  when it comes to what a woman wants at times. Unfortunately not every man is a dream. While some men are blessed with the ability to make a woman feel comfortable and satisfied, at the same time there are a pot full of men that don't even have 1% of that trait. 

What happens if you are the woman that has ended up with such a man? It can be quite frustrating can it? Especially if you're the type of woman that knows exactly what she needs. 

I would say that the good thing about human beings is that we learn everyday, and we adapt quickly. I have a friend with a huge problem (or at least she thinks it is). She is in love and wants to remain with her man, but he seems to be the type to just not get it. Yes he loves her too (so he says), but it is almost not believable because his actions don't show it. This seems to drive her crazy and she just does not know what to do. Shouldn't a man's actions show love?

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Is a Housewife A Liability??

I ran across this on Facebook and thought it was really different. My own take here is that I believe modern times have made women stronger, as a result we like to get our hands dirty as well, and I think that's completely fine if she wants to. I'm not ashamed to say that I'm a bit traditional and would actually not mind having a man take care of the finances, while I take full control of the homefront and keep him as comfortable as possible. Of course I don't expect to ever meet a guy that reasons like that today because nowadays settling down seems to be more about joining finances than raising a family (I weep); and nowadays if a guy doesn't see you to have a strong career or plan he looks at you as a

8 Things You Need To Know About A Woman.

Source: Bellanaija

Smooth 98.1 FM on-air personality Aderonke Adebanjo is back with a new episode of ‘The Love Chest’ and she’s talking about some of the things men (married or single) need to know about women.

The vlog is called ‘8 Things You Need to Know about Women’.

Aderonke notes that women like to talk and sometimes all we need you to do is listen and nothing more.

Hmmm... Sounds really familiar though... 

Watch the vlog after the cut

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Hi Loves! My new video is up and it's called The First Date Tag! Find out about how I handle my first date situations and the last guy that got angry at me for offering to pay for dinner lol.

As usual send in your emails for topic requests and suggestions! Hmm btw it's been a while since I did a giveaway her, who would like to see a giveaway happen on the blog?! Help me come up with my next giveaway idea and you might win something too!



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Dear Lady G: How Do I Get A Girl?

Yaayy as promised a few months ago, I have finally come out with my very first video! The topic is on "How To Get A Girl". I have to say I was soo nervous publishing this video, because I knew it had a lot improvemnets that needed to be done, but it's my very first one and the first video is always he worst one. Hopefully if I keep the videos coming I will get better and better for you all. Hope you enjoy the tips and please leave your comments and suggestions on how to improve in the future. Also like and subscribe to my channel to support your favorite blogger!

Remember you can always Submit your Dear Lady G questions to my email gabyanastasis@gmail.com!

XOXO

Dear Lady G: When Is It The Right Time To Unfriend Your Ex On Facebook.

I got an email from a reader asking me a very interesting, but different question. I call this question different because I've never really thought about it as a serious issue worth even talking about. But after reading her email, I decided to make it the next blog topic, so here it is!

The Lazy Toaster...

Let's talk about this interesting phenomenon called the "Lazy Toaster". Now if you remember, about a year or more ago I made a blog post on the "toasting phase" (HERE). It was actually one of my favorite posts till date, because it was REAL! If you do not know what a toaster is, it is simply a Nigerian slang used to describe a man that is after a woman's heart. We have all had a toaster at some time in our lives, and most of us know how to handle them. But what happens when you encounter a lazy toaster? Ladies some of y'all know what I mean. The guy that hangs around and gives you the "I Like You" vibe. But never really seems to act on it. That's enough to drive a woman crazy. I was watching video blogs by the gorgeous Toke Makinwa Saturday night, and I stumbled upon a vlog she did about it. I couldn't help but scream "YESS GIRL!". She definitely went in... (continue)

The Craziest Stalker Love Story Ever... And it Happened To Me.

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  Stalkers...We've all experienced one; but have you experienced one that went through the length of crossing the ocean for you? Well I have, and I am about to give you the gist.

It all started back sometime in May. I had boarded a flight from Lagos to Abuja, and noticed that my seat was taken. I flagged the flight attendant to sort it out. The flight attendant asked the young man in my seat if he could see his boarding pass in order to direct him to the right seat. Instead of doing so, the young man turned toward me and arrogantly asked"do you want the seat" (no, it's not like I paid for it or anything)? In my polite nature, I just smiled and told him he could have it. The flight was smooth and we landed in Abuja safely, praise God.

As I was at baggage claim, the man asked me for my phone number so he could call me. I didn't want to give it to him but he would not stop bothering me. So I gave him my Nigerian number knowing I would be leaving the country in a few days. That was the beginning of a "looong tiiing". This guy would not stop ringing me. He would send me text messages saying how he has never seen someone so beautiful, and how I haunt his dreams. He then started begging me to see him, because he could not stop thinking about me. It was crazy. I eventually blocked his number from calling me... Fast forward to 6months later.

How to Add More Yards To Your Wife Material...

There are a lot of ladies out there longing to be labeled "wife material". Some might even go buy a book of step by step things to do if they could. So in good spirit, I have once again taken the liberty to rub some of my knowledge of the subject onto you! Now the question is "How do I become a wife material"? It's simple.. (continue)

Dear Lady G: My man Does Not Understand Me.

  For a while now, I have thought about opening up a column for questions and answers, particularly because I love to read question and answer columns on other blogs. I can spend hours doing so. I received an email from a frantic lady that has been reading my blog (particularly the relationship column). She sent me this email about issues she's been having in her relationship to seek my advice on it. I asked her for permission to share with my lovely readers and she gave me the go ahead. So here it is guys. My first official "Ask Lady G"!!

Ladies: What Not To Do in Your Relationship/Marriage.

 

     There are a couple of things that women are guilty of when it comes to our love affair. Talking to other women that are single, in a relationship, engaged to be married and married, I have come up with a summary of some of the things us women should be careful not to do in our relationships and perhaps even marriages.

1. Your Man Is Not A Psychic.
We are all guilty of this crime. Expecting your man to know what is wrong with you when you have not even communicated it with him. Often times women punish their men for not being able to realize a problem, but failing to realize them self that they have not even told him that there is a problem. One lady spent almost a

Domestic Violence- Love Doesn't Hurt, Loving The Wrong Person Does.

Domestic violence is a very touchy topic that most people do not like to talk about, most times we try to hide it because we don't want people to look at us as weak or insecure. Being from Africa I have seen and experienced a lot of domestic violence cases in my lifetime, luckily I have never been a victim. These incidents happen for various reasons and happen to various types of people. Now I will start off by saying that in a case of domestic violence the woman is not "always" the victim (yes men go through it too), but today we are going to focus exclusively on the women's case because I am all about female empowerment.

   One thing a lot of people do not know is that domestic violence is and has been a huge problem in Africa, It's almost as if it is allowed. A male friend of mine once said that "Nigeria is the only country I know where I will beat my wife, she will  call the police and the police will ask her what she did to cause it".

The Toasting Phase

      Now ladies I am sure the title of this post does not come as unfamiliar to you, especially my Nigerian ladies. You might have even recognized it from my post on "The 90 day rule" ( READ IT HERE! ) There is always a time in dating or just when you're getting to know a man that he does just about any and everything for you. He calls you

Valentine's Day Tricks and Treats. How will you be spending Your Val's Day!?

 It is February 12th and the countdown to Valentine's day has long been here. All the ladies are standing by anxious to see what their men have in store, and all the men are panicking knowing that they have nothing planned (lol I pity you). I will first like to remind everyone that valentine's day should not be a day to love the one you are with, you are suppose to love and cherish your significant other everyday. Valentine's day is only a day marked to celebrate that love that you have. If you have  not started planning or don't know what to do, DO NOT PANIC! I have some quick easy and romantic ideas for you...

Would You Want Your Man to Kneel Down and Ask You To Marry Him?

 

 This one is for the ladies (men you are free to chip in with your opinions too). Most ladies dream to one day be a beautiful bride. We all have different unique views for how big or small we want our wedding to be, to what color or design we want our dress to have. But in spite of all those lovely thoughts, has anyone thought about how they want to be proposed to and in what manner?